Are you playing the blame game?

• Do you know who is holding you back from achieving your dreams and goals?
• Do you put your families, partners, spouses and even some of your friends needs before your own.
• Do you feel hard done by because you never seem to get anything in return from these same people?
• Do you feel anger and resentment towards them for holding you back. Have you tried to point out the fact that you’ve always done this and that for them, and all you got is a set of rolling eyes and muttering. 

Do you remember a time when it wasn't like that? Do you remember all those ex-partners, selfish people they were, who decided that you weren’t good enough, or pretty enough and left you for someone else. I don’t know about you, but I know I’d be pretty and skinny if I had the time to spend on making sure I put me first all the time.

Typical isn’t it – no-one cares about you and your problems, they don’t care that you sat up half the night doing things for them. They don’t care that you’ve spent all your time and money on them and what do you get in return – NOTHING.

And don’t get me started on the people at work, or the state of the government. I mean if it wasn’t for them I’m sure we’d all be self-made millionaires living the life of luxury, doing what we wanted, when we wanted to do it. But no, life just isn’t fair, and no-one gives a stuff. Do they?

Do you have the time, or the money to do what you want? Of course you don't. Just when you think you’re getting ahead, something else comes along and takes any spare cash or time you had scrimped and saved for.

Do you have the time to go to a gym or do some form of exercise? Or do you get exhausted just thinking about it?And just when you might consider going for walk – the weather is disgusting, I don’t know about you – but you just can’t win can you.

Or can you?

Have you ever stopped to consider that the only reason you aren’t doing what you said you wanted to, is because you don’t really want to.

Read that again.

You aren’t doing all that you can, or being all that you can be – because YOU don’t want to.

You’re happy where you are. You are comfortable in your whiny guilt making world. Have you ever stopped to consider why people don’t come to visit you anymore, or call you on a regular basis? Or are you the kind of person who has “friends” who call to whinge about something or someone, you’re happy playing the blame game.

Oh I don’t mean that you are “happy” and you have a smile on your face because the sun is shining and the kids are outside playing. You like to live in the past, reliving your old hurts and blaming them or it for where you are right now, because it’s comfortable blaming someone else, that way you don’t have to take responsibility for your actions.

But I was sick, I was hurt, I was in pain, if it wasn’t for them I’d be…

WAS. Stop living in the past, and get on with living today – right now.

Today is the only day you have if you stop and think about it. Who knows what might happen tomorrow.

YOU are the person holding you back. That’s right – YOU ARE.

Unless you live in a dictatorship, you have total control over your thoughts and your actions. No-one but you can determine what you are going to think, say, eat and do.

When I found out that I was totally responsible for where I was in my life, and the decisions that I had made, I was disappointed in myself for allowing my poor thinking to control my life. I’m not saying that it is easy to change the habits of a lifetime, because it’s not. But knowing I am responsible does make it easier to accept that I have total control over my future.

So today you have a choice, you can either take control of your destiny and do something about yourself and your circumstances, or you can continue to play the blame game. The choice as they say is yours.

Comments

[Paul Treuer]

If you don't have motivation, you won't get far. Think about this analogy. You have a car with a full tank of gas, a well-tuned engine, good set of tires, quadraphonic CD system, and a sleek, polished exterior. There it sits. This car has incredible potential. (Have you heard that before?) However, until a driver sits behind the wheel, puts the key in the ignition, and cranks it up, the car doesn't function. You guessed it; the KEY is MOTIVATION.

Interest is an important motivator for a us. So is a desire to learn. When you link these two things together, you create success. Often success in an endeavor leads to more interest and a greater desire to learn, creating an upward spiral of motivation toward a goal you have established.

So be honest with yourself. Are you genuinely interested in being in college? Have you set realistic goals for yourself? How can you develop the internal motivation that really counts? When it comes to motivation, KNOWING is not as important as DOING

[Donald]

OMG. I hated this post.. but only because it is so true! I am a major procrasinator and need to change this. I am 32 have an awesome wife and a wonderful 6 month old son. My business is faultering, but it is no ones fault but my own. I need to get active and get moving. Thank you for the post.