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Jan312007
What don't you want to face up to?
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Procrastination as we know is the putting off until a later time/day/date something that you don't want to do. But I want you to look at it in a slightly different way - this "thing" you are not doing - what is it allowing you not to face up to?
Sounds like a double negative doesn't it.
We delay the start of doing something, or changing our behaviours because we don't want to face up to the fact that we have the problem in the first place.
We delay going on a diet because we don't want to face up to the fact that we're eating ourselves into an early grave, or that we look terrible with clothes on.
We delay writing the report because we can't face up to the fact that we weren't paying attention in the meeting, and admitting that would mean we would lose face.
Our "ignorance" of the problems that we know we have, but don't want to "face up to" keeps us insulated from the discomfort that a change in behaviour inevitably brings.
What are you not willing to face up to? Go and stand in front of a mirror and look yourself in the eye and tell the person who matters most to you, why you are not doing all that you can every single day. Go on. You daren't dare you? Are you afraid of what you will see if you actually care to look? Most people are! How about you?
If you truly want to get more out of every day, then you need to face up to the fact that what you have done in the past has gotten you to the exact point in your life that you find yourselves now. No-one else is to blame except you. No-one forced you to eat to excess, spend too much, fail to write the reports on time, or listen at the meetings. It is ourselves who are to blame. We can try to blame other people, but - at the end of the day (apart from it getting dark - without fail I would hasten to add), only we can decide what it is we are going to do with our lives.
So what are you avoiding?
What are you not willing to face?
Until you work out the answers to those two questions, you will keep getting stuck.
Sounds like a double negative doesn't it.
We delay the start of doing something, or changing our behaviours because we don't want to face up to the fact that we have the problem in the first place.
We delay going on a diet because we don't want to face up to the fact that we're eating ourselves into an early grave, or that we look terrible with clothes on.
We delay writing the report because we can't face up to the fact that we weren't paying attention in the meeting, and admitting that would mean we would lose face.
Our "ignorance" of the problems that we know we have, but don't want to "face up to" keeps us insulated from the discomfort that a change in behaviour inevitably brings.
What are you not willing to face up to? Go and stand in front of a mirror and look yourself in the eye and tell the person who matters most to you, why you are not doing all that you can every single day. Go on. You daren't dare you? Are you afraid of what you will see if you actually care to look? Most people are! How about you?
If you truly want to get more out of every day, then you need to face up to the fact that what you have done in the past has gotten you to the exact point in your life that you find yourselves now. No-one else is to blame except you. No-one forced you to eat to excess, spend too much, fail to write the reports on time, or listen at the meetings. It is ourselves who are to blame. We can try to blame other people, but - at the end of the day (apart from it getting dark - without fail I would hasten to add), only we can decide what it is we are going to do with our lives.
So what are you avoiding?
What are you not willing to face?
Until you work out the answers to those two questions, you will keep getting stuck.
Elle
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January 31, 2007 at 15:48
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