Thursday
Feb012007
What is your "problem" protecting you from?
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Carrying on from yesterday's message regarding problems and what you are not willing to face. In other words - you know you have a problem, but one that you are not willing to admit to having (well not in the cold light of a sober day that is).
So the next question has to be - what is the problem protecting you from?
If you would like to look at it this way - having the problem stops you from moving forwards, yes? But confronting it may take you into territories only your shrink would be able to deal with. So we protect ourselves, we are afraid to deal with it, so the problem insulates us, but protects us from - what?
Well usually - doing more, being more, achieving great things.
Imagine drinking yourself into oblivion every night. The reason why you do that may be linked to all sorts of reasons, not least of which are habit or your folks are drinkers so you've been dragged up to believe it's normal behaviour. And for them of course it is. But really all alcohol is - is an excuse for you to hide behind.
You say you want to start a home based business - but because you need the money you currently earn, you have to work at night and on the weekend. At first you may be excited to get the project off the ground so you don't touch the stuff.
Then you get your first customers and you celebrate the success....now depending on your ability to drop bad habits and pick up good ones, may depend on whether you can stick to one drink or are you the kind of person who needs a bottle? Anyway, the next night comes around, and because you've had a bad day at work (which is one of the reasons why you want to work from home) you hit the booze early. You stagger off to bed thinking that tomorrow, you'll be able to cope with the additional demands and pressures and it won't happen again.
The original problem is then compounded by the "problem" with your reliance on alcohol. It may have several other problems associated with it, namely poor health, excess weight, monetary etc etc. But until you get to the root cause of why you need alcohol, food, illicit drugs etc and then there are those things you hide behind that aren't food related - for example, why you cause problems through argumentative or violent behaviour.
It doesn't matter what you use to enable your problem, the problem exists because you are not willing to deal with it, because dealing with it, means losing your emotional reliance on those things you can "blame" for not getting on.
Today's edition is quite long and quite complicated, but it goes to the heart of procrastination.
What are your problems?
What are they protecting you from?
What are your enablers?
By not dealing with the problem you will never get rid of the "enablers" and the enablers keep you stuck going around the problem.
It takes some doing, but if you want to answer those few questions - and be willing to deal with the answers that you get, you will be able to get rid of procrastination once and for all.
But then you wouldn't need me to talk to you....darn - can't win can I?
Have a thoughtful day
Elle
So the next question has to be - what is the problem protecting you from?
If you would like to look at it this way - having the problem stops you from moving forwards, yes? But confronting it may take you into territories only your shrink would be able to deal with. So we protect ourselves, we are afraid to deal with it, so the problem insulates us, but protects us from - what?
Well usually - doing more, being more, achieving great things.
Imagine drinking yourself into oblivion every night. The reason why you do that may be linked to all sorts of reasons, not least of which are habit or your folks are drinkers so you've been dragged up to believe it's normal behaviour. And for them of course it is. But really all alcohol is - is an excuse for you to hide behind.
You say you want to start a home based business - but because you need the money you currently earn, you have to work at night and on the weekend. At first you may be excited to get the project off the ground so you don't touch the stuff.
Then you get your first customers and you celebrate the success....now depending on your ability to drop bad habits and pick up good ones, may depend on whether you can stick to one drink or are you the kind of person who needs a bottle? Anyway, the next night comes around, and because you've had a bad day at work (which is one of the reasons why you want to work from home) you hit the booze early. You stagger off to bed thinking that tomorrow, you'll be able to cope with the additional demands and pressures and it won't happen again.
The original problem is then compounded by the "problem" with your reliance on alcohol. It may have several other problems associated with it, namely poor health, excess weight, monetary etc etc. But until you get to the root cause of why you need alcohol, food, illicit drugs etc and then there are those things you hide behind that aren't food related - for example, why you cause problems through argumentative or violent behaviour.
It doesn't matter what you use to enable your problem, the problem exists because you are not willing to deal with it, because dealing with it, means losing your emotional reliance on those things you can "blame" for not getting on.
Today's edition is quite long and quite complicated, but it goes to the heart of procrastination.
What are your problems?
What are they protecting you from?
What are your enablers?
By not dealing with the problem you will never get rid of the "enablers" and the enablers keep you stuck going around the problem.
It takes some doing, but if you want to answer those few questions - and be willing to deal with the answers that you get, you will be able to get rid of procrastination once and for all.
But then you wouldn't need me to talk to you....darn - can't win can I?
Have a thoughtful day
Elle
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February 1, 2007 at 10:22
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