killing yourself with kindness

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Good Morning

I hope you have started the process of looking at the problems you have in a new way. And believe me when I say we all have our own problems to deal with. As I said yesterday though, this process is not a fast one, and can be quite confronting to do and deal with, and some of you may not feel up to doing it just yet.

Unfortunately the longer we delay in dealing with our problems the bigger the emotional blocks to overcoming those problems seem to be. Just like anything we procrastinate over, if we delay starting something we add pressure, stress and a whole slew of other problems to just getting started on whatever it was we decided to delay doing. And so it is with looking at the problem in and of itself. We may decide that we will sit down and spend some time over the weekend looking at what we know is causing us to grind to a halt, but until then we can continue doing what we have always done....can't we?

Well yes we can, but in doing so are we killing ourselves with kindness?

Lets say your problem relates to emotional eating. That is the time when you eat because someone or something has upset you, rahter than your stomach is growling because it is actually empty. They shout at you, so you head off to the cupboard to find your comfort food. Not that you enjoy eating it, you don't even think about what you are eating most of the time - because we are telling ourselves what a nasty person he/she is. But the serotonin we release as a result of eating - makes us feel better, for a time at least. And like all habits, we quickly need another "fix" to get us over the slump of the last one.

By delaying the process of looking at the root cause, and then dealing with it (talking to your partner) and then looking at each enabling aspect, you can literally kill yourself with "kindness". We forget that we don't really need to eat 4 big macs and consume half a liter of ice-cream on top of 3 big meals we've already had today. But the extra calories and associated fats, sugars and stress it places on our systems can kill us. And we can stop it, by dealing with our emotional reaction at the root cause. Did I say it was going to be quick and easy to change the habits of a life time? Not at all. But - you can deal with each problem as they appear. One decision at a time, one day at a time. Yes you can make a decision to stop tomorrow, but why wait? Do it now and start to reclaim the power you have over you.

Elle

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