People in glass houses

Change your vocabulary

The way we speak to ourselves is fascinating. I sometimes find myself muttering about other people's behaviour - usually when I'm in the car. But we do have to be careful as anyone who lives in a glass house will know, shouldn't throw stones.

Today I would like to give you some personal work. Try removing all negative words from your vocabulary, and any "swear" words that you find yourself muttering when someone does something you don't like, and replace them with positive ones. Remove phrases such as "nothing ever goes right for me" with "well that didn't work, lets try something different."

And for the "other" bad drivers out there (and lets face it, we can all do with a dose of humility behind the wheel), let them go past you, chances are going to be good you're going to catch them up at the next set of lights anyway - so why waste energy, fuel and rubber trying to get one over them. We can't do anything about their behaviour, but we can do everything about ours. And that goes for everything we are doing at the moment. We see other people wasting time at work so think we can emulate them. We spend a couple of hours down the pub with our mates and if they're complaining about everyone and everything around them, don't participate in the discussion - it will only get you down. In fact, if these people (friends) make a habit of doing it, then it may be time to find some alternative people to hang round with, preferably ones who have a positive outlook on life AND get things done.

Watch what you are saying to yourself, to your clients, to your spouse, kids, friends. Don't whinge, whine, snarl or be otherwise grumpy. It's hard, but it can be done, and the results can be astounding. By re-programming your words, your thoughts and your actions HAVE to change.