Friends are good like that

What kind of friends do you have? Are they the kind who watch your back and make sure you're ok when you're in a tight spot? Or are they the kind to say - see you around, I'm not bailing you out of jail if you get stuck. Do your friends offer you a shoulder to cry on, a glass of wine and a bar of chocolate (or whatever the boy equivalent is); and a safe environment to get to the heart of your troubles? Or do you fear telling them because you know it will end up on facebook and twitter?

But what does having friends you can talk to have anything to do with motivation and overcoming procrastination?

Well I think it has a lot to do with both motivation and how we overcome procrastination. You see, procrastination occurs when we know we have an issue and we don't want to deal with it.

We may pretend we don't have an issue, we pretend we don't have a problem and we go round in ever decreasing circles.

I know what the "guru's" say - "always look on the bright side of life" and yes you can. But if you continue to paper over the cracks of your problems, sooner or later great screaming chasms will appear. Assuming everyone reading this is "normal" you will have problems occur every now and then - yes even the best of us have problems now and then. It's not that you have them, it's how you deal with them.

If you feel you don't have any friends you can confide in, there are a myriad of organisations who can and will help you. But there are other ways you can deal with the issue.

It may take time and it will take a lot of soul searching, some of your problems and issues may be buried deeper than you think. What you may think is a minor issue today, you may find yourself dragging up stuff from your past you thought you were over.

So - pens and paper at the ready. Make sure you are not going to be disturbed for a couple of hours and make sure there are plenty of tissues around.

WHAT THIS IS NOT

This is not a time to blame other people for where you are - this is about taking responsibilty for your actions AND your inactions, or your part in the process.

So, what is troubling you you can't move on and create the life you say you want?

Only by asking those questions of yourself will (I believe) allow you to forgive, forget and finally move on. Oh and while we are in the process of forgiveness, don't forget the most important person in this process - YOU.

Apologies for the deep and meaningful post today - sometimes I feel like I have to ask the hard questions to make you think.

With many thoughts
Elle

p.s. anyone else worried that we are already into March already? 100 day challengers - how are your journey's to better things progressing? Be good to hear from you.

Comments

[Hellen]

Hi Elle

Wow, what a truly powerful post. I can't believe how you can tap into my mind and bore so deeply, yet allow me to come back refreshed, renewed and invigorated and ready to start again.
Thank you my friend
Hellen