Feelings, emotions and understanding

The way we feel at any particular point in time can literally make or break a situation.

You know you have to make a dozen phone calls today, but you're really not in the mood. You drank too much last night, your head feels like it's going to drop off, and to cap it off you had a row with your other half. You might be able to sound all right. You might be able to make the client think that the product you are selling is the best thing since bread came sliced. But because your emotions are not in alignment with what you say you want (in this case, to make a sale or two) then you won't actually sell anything.

What happens then is that the constant client rejection "gets to you" and you start to "feel" worse. But you persevere. You have a quota of calls that you need to make, and you will make them. Unfortunately by the end of the day, the clients can tell you are in a bad mood. The facade that everything was fine, is cracking - badly. The clients to whom you already have a relationship can also tell - you're just not the same today as you have been in the past.

The words you use in your emails also reflect your moods, and your utter despair. Is it any wonder why nothing appears to be working today.

But is it just a case of think positive thoughts and positive things will begin to happen. Actually no. It's not quite as simple as that. You see, you can think positive thoughts all you like, but if your emotions and moods are not in the same place as your thoughts, the discord means that nothing will appear to be working.

So how do you bring your emotions into alignment with your thoughts? Well to be honest I haven't mastered the art of this one entirely myself. But there are some things that may work, some of the time.

Change your environment - by that I mean. Switch off the electric lights and light a couple of candles. OK, this may not be practicle for the work environment, but you can do it at home. Take the harsh glare out of your eyes and they will start to relax.
Turn off the phones, or if you can't turn them off for whatever reason - turn them down. You don't need to be startled every time the darn thing rings. NOTHING is that important you need to pick it up on the first half a ring.
Try switching from one cup of caffeinated beverage to a non-caffeinated version. Camomile tea has a natural relaxant in it and may help, when it gets too stressful.
70% or greater cocoa chocolate - you can only eat a little bit, but break a bit off and stick it into the roof of your mouth and let the chocolate dissolve. It gives an instant hit of the "feel good" factor. And you don't need to eat half a pound of calories to get the effect.
Change tack completely. Go for a walk. Listen to some music whilst you are working.

Then when you start to relax you can then ask yourself why your thoughts are not matching your emotions.

If you have discord it usually means that you don't believe in whatever positive thoughts you are having.
Your experience has told you that you have got to be joking, nothing has ever worked for you before.

So narrow it down, what don't you believe about your current thought statements that you are having.

Once you have done that, try changing the words that you are repeating to yourself in whatever mantra you have chosen. I am thin, I am rich, I am 6 feet tall and ..... to some that you do actually believe. I am becoming thinner and healthier. The better food choices are really making a difference. I am saving more money. My discretionary spending is getting better. I am 5 feet 8 inches tall and look great in heels.....

If you can't turn the words around, then you need to take one further step. I need you to remember a time when you achieved something. It could be something small like - learning how to walk when you were a child (did I say small !!) or learning how to read, the time when you sold your biggest order of oojahs to the dude in woop woop, the time when you walked down the street and someone smiled at you. Those kinds of days when everything was in alignment. Remember them and then write them down.

Once you get your emotions and your thoughts working together, you will begin to remember how good it felt when it happened, and you will automatically begin to make better things happen.

  
With Many thoughts,
Elle
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