When our children hit their teenage years it may feel like we have given house room to aliens. It may seem like everything we say and everything we do is designed to annoy them and prevent them from doing what they want to do. Thankfully most of them grow out of it - well we did, didn't we! As with all things motivational, there is not a one size fits all strategy. However, what follows are some suggestions that have worked at some point or other with my own teen spirits.