3 simple ways to motivate children

Motivating children is possible. But there are some things to consider before attempting what can be seen to be an impossible task.

1. Children will only do what they want to do. And it is the same for us as well. Kids are no different from anyone else when it comes to motivation. Show them a benefit and they will be motivated. Show them the consequences and you may see a change in behavior, reluctant motivation is a start.
2. Lead by example. I am a firm believer in the adage, you never deal in double standards when it comes to kids. Children learn their habits from the people around them. So if they see you sitting down in front of the television - they are going to be less likely to want to do any kind of work, including homework.
3. Include them in the planning, decision making and the actions. My kids and I plan a "because we can" party once a year. We choose a theme and we all get involved in the details. We've been holding these parties - once a year for the last 10 years or so - midnight feasts - at midnight. Kids parties for adults (complete with goody bags and games)...and the kids love it, and talk about it for weeks - before, during and after. My kids are well into their teens now and still enjoy the process. Let them help with cooking, with the dishes, with the present wrapping, the tree decoration - it may not be how you would have done it, but you know what - who cares....they're involved, they're having fun and guess what - they're motivated kids. "What's next mummy?" is a great cry to be heard. It also keeps me on my toes thinking up new activities. And they learn from a very early age what it takes to do things.

Comments

[Hannah]

Thank you so much for this post, Elle! I love the idea of "because we can" parties and look forward to involving my little man in organising one.

H :)